Am I Failing?

I'm just going to put this out there. 

I think I am failing as a parent.  

I can't seem to get Christian, who is going to be 9 years old, to get up, get dressed and brush his teeth in the morning.  He turns off his alarm clock and goes back to sleep.  Then once he is finally up he sits on the floor looking dazed and confused while getting dressed.  It took him 5 minutes to get one sock on.  He sits on the floor to put on his pants/shorts.  I feel like I need to stay next to him every minute to be sure he stays on track.  Am I right to be so frustrated?  Why am I still putting on and tying his shoes?  The honest to goodness truth is because it would take him 10 minutes to do it himself!  I get so frustrated with him.  Shouldn't he be able to handle these responsibilities?  He's almost 9!  He should be able to take a shower.  He should be able to turn on the water, get in, get wet and washed, turn off the water, dry off...etc.  Nope, I turn on the water and leave him for about 5 minutes.  When I come back I expect him to have washed his body and hair.  Instead when I come back his hair isn't even wet and he's been sitting in the bottom of the shower playing with shampoo bottles!  I want to scream!  

Last week I packed up all the toys and put them in the garage.  I was so tired of stepping on toys because they can't keep their room clean.  I told him over and over again that if they didn't take care of the toys I was going to get rid of them.  Well I didn't get rid of them but I did put them all away.  They have to earn them back.

Obviously what I am doing isn't working.  I guess its time to go to the bookstore.  Maybe I will find some answers there.